THE STRUGGLE

As we all sit in our homes trying to adjust to a world that changed so quickly, leaving us stir crazy, we must look deeply into our own souls.

I have been trying to discover my true self. What my needs are, what my must haves are and my absolute won’t have in my life are.

I have discovered that to love myself, I cannot allow people around me that make me question my boundaries and myself. You see, recently I discovered my main top MUST HAVE!

TRUST!!!!

Without trust EVERYTHING goes to shit. To lie to someone that cares for you or you for them, shows the ultimate disrespect and betrayal. You steal any bond or further chance to evolve with that person because they have shared their true inner self. They cannot be trusted. They have robbed you of peace of mind. Left you questioning every little thing in that relationship.

A LIE:

Flat out telling someone something that is not true.

Omitting parts or all of a truth.

Hiding something that happened or is happening.

A lie destroys relationships, leaving the victim of your abuse left empty, confused, angry, sad, unloved, and never believing in you again. It is unfixable. It is a horrible way to treat a person you love. It is in fact…. NOT LOVE….

Never allow someone that can lie to you to stay in your life. Make this your number one boundary because if they cross it… they do not care for you. Do not let them convince you they love you…they will have every excuse as to WHY they lied, but there are absolutely NO EXCUSES.! They are showing you who they are… believe them. Their actions have SHOWN you. There is no reason to stay, once a liar, forever a liar.

Trust yourself. Trust your gut. If it feels wrong…it is. We are born with an amazing sense of what we feel, it is our gut instincts warning us. When we ignore that, we will most definitely get hurt. We must trust our intuition…We must love ourselves and trust ourselves so that we protect our souls. The more exposure to negative in our lives the more we slowly damage our own happiness. It is hard to pick ourselves up after we have been abused through lies because it changes our brain and heart. It makes us question ourselves and doubt ourselves…. But DON’T.

Learn from the relationship and chalk it up to this:

Love is opening your soul to another and becoming vulnerable to enhance a closeness…if they lie, they are telling you flat out they do not cherish your soul or heart. GET RID OF them IMMEDIATELY, no second chances. Love yourself and trust yourself… not them.

My boundary is real, it is the center of any and all relationships. I recently learned it is my number one boundary. I will love myself better and trust myself.

IT WAS A HARD LESSON.  IT HURT. I will walk away stronger.

Thank you for the lies….I GREW.

I found a soul that caused me harm. One I opened my heart and soul to. I’m sorry you have nothing left to offer me now. You showed me how you love….

I love myself more than you.

Peace and light loves.

Believe in your gut J it is ALWAYS right.

Nomadic Soul Seeker